Resolve and Self-Motivation

re*solve [ri-zolv] - noun 1. a resolution or determination made as to follow some course of action. 2. firmness of purpose or intent; determination
It's probably pretty obvious to most that one's resolve is a determining factor in the fulfillment of New Years Resolutions. But before your resolve is tested, before you get your sights set on something, we must first be motivated. My husband is full of Dr. Phil-isms and is fond of saying "change comes only from inspiration or desperation". I'd agree with that. But I think all of us know people (including ourselves at times) who just never get motivated enough to change or do something about their situation. Everyone fantasizes about having a better life or being something more, but what keeps some people stuck while others move forward? One of my mentors likes to use the illustration of a pyramid:

23% of the population are near impossible to motivate. You could hand them a winning lotto ticket and they'd never call to claim their prize. Their disbelief, fear, complacency, and excuses would keep them exactly where they were, never taking advantage of the opportunity starring them in the face. 60% of people are possible to motivate... under the right circumstances. They're motivated as long as the sun is shining and the stars are aligned. The 10%-ers are Self-Motivated: they spur themselves on, they have self-discipline, and the resolve to  stick to it through the ups and downs. Then there's the few... the 3% of people out there who can inspire others to greatness. These categories are not life sentences. Perhaps at different stages of life we were UN-motivate-able, motivate-able, or self-motivated. For me, lately I've been oscillating between motivate-able and self-motivated. If you're like me, trying to get rooted as a self-motivated person, it helps to surround yourself with people who've already made that transition.Take note of the people you spend the most time with- are they the kind of person who actively pursues their goals and doesn't let disappointments deter them? Or are they stagnant, lacking drive, and more focused on the things they can't control than the things they can? Minimize time spent with those who are "stuck" and the amount of influence they have on you. Maximize your time with those whose drive you wish to emulate. Take note of what they do and follow suit. Repeat until self-motivation is a habit.

In the words of my favorite roommate: "Peace out"